Four Myths About Confidence
What is confidence? While the word confidence is widely used and the idea of being confident is sought after, there’s a lot of bullsh*t out there about what it is. Let’s break down some of the most common myths about confidence so you know what’s real and what’s not.
1. Confident people are always confident.
The number one myth about confidence is that you’re ALWAYS confident. No matter what’s happening in your life, a tsunami of unpredictable events could occur, and the people around you always expect you to feel sure of yourself. First of all, that’s silly. Second, it’s unrealistic. Everyone struggles from time to time, questions their decisions or simply doubts themselves –even the most confident people you know. Being confident is about owning who you are. It means learning, practicing, and adopting techniques that work for you.
2. To be confident, you have to be successful.
Money, big house, fancy car, luxury vacations, important job title, that’s confidence, right? Nope. Material things and titles have nothing to do with confidence. On the flip side, being successful has a lot to do with confidence, Don’t make the mistake of confusing the two. Otherwise, you may not even believe you can achieve success.
3. All confident people are extroverts.
All confident people love being the center of attention is another lie. You don’t need to be a social butterfly to exude confidence. Confidence can be defined as being comfortable in your skin and in tune with who you are and what you want. Sometimes that will mean turning down drinks with friends because you need time alone. Confident people know themselves and feel good about their decisions.
4. Confidence means being loud and aggressive.
Let’s be honest; we all know someone who is loud, aggressive or just obnoxious. Is confidence what comes to mind when you think of that person? Probably not. Loud has nothing to do with confidence. Being sure of yourself and taking ownership when you miss the mark is the foundation of a confident person. There is no personality requirement for confidence other than advocating for yourself and speaking up when necessary.
Studies show that women are disproportionately affected by a lack of confidence compared to men. Add another layer, such as women of color, low income, no formal education, etc., and the confidence lessens. At Unapologetically Confident™, we shut down the status quo and help women achieve their version of success by improving their confidence. From workshops to small group coaching to one-on-one coaching sessions, we’re committed to cutting through the bullsh*t to get you results.
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